The Day that Changed My Life Forever


For most of the drive I was on a major interstate, but as I crossed into Georgia, it became a 2 lane rural highway. I settled into the slow lane, the right lane settled into the trip I began daydreaming. This was my only job of the day. As freelance computer engineer it was a dream come true. I looked forward to having the rest of the day to myself. Anyway as I continue in the right lane. I noticed in my left mirror an 18 wheeler in the left lane behind me but traveling at a good pace.  I didn’t give another thoughtand continued to my client. I was now only 15 minutes from the client, and then out of the blue it happened, All I remember was that I heard a loud, thunderous noise, almost simultaneously I went out like a light, it was Lucy in the sky with diamonds. images-4 Let’s go back to how the day started. It seems like just yesterday, but it was just over ten years ago when an event that changed my life forever happened as you got a taste of from the above paragraph. It was a beautiful day in North Florida, it was late summer, actually it was the first week in November. I was lazy that day but I was under contract with a fortune 500 company and a related Union, which left me no choice but to get up and get my butt in gear. As a computer engineer, and having a great job, which compensated me very well, whether I did one job or a hundred. On this particular day I had only one assignment and the rest of the day I would be free. Having the particulars of this one assignment, I summarized it would take me 15 minutes at the client and I would be free for the day. It doesn’t get better than that. Does it? Instead I’m collectimg Social Security disablily, unable to work. I was in the prime of my earning power, and I had finally realized I needed to start building a retirement fund. Money has always burned a whole in my pocket. My job took me all over the country, with all expenses paid by my employer. What a life? That’s how I felt. This job took me into a small town in southern GA., about an hour or so drive from where I was staying in N. Florida. Anyway I jump into my company car,  load my computer gear in the back of the car and off I went, of course not knowing what was soon to happen. My significant other was at work, I called cause I was bored but also to say hello, and tell her I love her. Which I did. We talked for a bit, she informed me what would be for dinner, and then we said goodbye. Fast Forward two hours….. Although I was at least semi-unconscious, I could hear the crunching of my car, I had no idea what was going on, but I knew it wasn’t good. I prayed and held on for dear life. It was over and I was still alive, although I was in shock. I remember getting out of the car, there was no door, I noticed threw feel. I tried to walk, although I was only semi-conscious. I couldn’t see, but I could hear people screaming. GET DOWN! GET DOWN! I listened and laid on the ground. Not knowing I had bones pertruding out of my skin. Not much time went by, before emergency vehicles arrived. I remember being put on a board or strecher .  After that I don’t remember much. I remember paramedics discussing where they were gonna take me. They were discussing several options. Then I went out, maybe from pain, maybe they gave me a pain killer. I don’t know much. Whatever I know was from a police report. Apparently they took me to a local hospital where I stayed for about 12 hours. I have no recollection of being there. Three days later I woke up in a trauma center in North Florida, I had been life lighted there. I suffered multiple fractures, a compound fracture of my right tibia, whereby the bones in my right leg were exposed to the air. I suffered a fractured Femur, broken ribs, and a closed head injury. Had road burns all over my body and couldn’t see due to a scratched cornea The Fema is the upper part of your leg the attaches to your hip, The pain was excruciating and that’s an understatement, I had been in ICU for three days but I don’t remember a thing, Family and friends informed me that I was calling the nurses every name in the book. I was in so much  Pain.Pain I never experienced before or since. Although I was getting morphine and pain killers, I still was in unbearable pain. During the first week of my stay in the trauma center, I had a dozen surgeries., mostly to put my right leg back together. Essentially my lower right was unattached to the rest of my leg. This had to be a dream, but when one of the trauma doctors asked me if I wanted to keep my right leg, it sobered me up and I knew life would never be the same again. Sometime later, after they put me back together, I was sent to a rehab. I thought I was on the road to recovery, however, the physician at the rehab,  one of the best in the field, did not mince words. He clearly stated your leg is going to get infected. I’m 95% sure, he said. Within several days, I was fitted for a wheelchair which essentially I would live in for the next year. I was released and went home to a family member who cared for me. I could not stand. No ability to do almost anything. Essentially for the next year I was bedridden. And I was a in continuous pain. Excruciating pain.A nurse came to the house and among other things cleaned the wound in my right leg. A week later, I visited my surgeon and immediately he knew my leg had become infected. Back to the hospital and another surgery, this time to remove the rod that was holding my lower leg together. More pain, I mean pain. A short synopsis of what happened a semi and I collided, no fault of mine, my Ford Ranger was dragged 200 feet as it somehow got lodged under the trailer of the truck, then it freed itself rolled over three times and ejected me. I was wearing a seat belt. Besides the physical injuries and there were many  which in time I have recovered from by the grace of God and only by the grace of God. However I had bumped my head, and had suffered Traumatic Brain Injury, the neurologist, called it cognitive deficits. Cognitive deficits, I would go two blocks to the store and it would take me 4 hours to get home, I had no idea where I was I didn’t have any ability to figure out how to get home, I didn’t know where I was, I didn’t know if I was in NY, Chicago, Dallas, LA, I was totally incapacitated. Again by the grace of God, while I still suffer from TBI, somehow and is not my doing, I have regained much of my cognitive abilities. I am not a religious person, I do believe in God, and this one of those things I call a “God thing”. Quick story while I was in the hospital, I was handed a summons for not having insurance. I immediately called my boss as this was a company car and of course we had insurance. I called my boss Chuck and I said Chuck how come the cop didn’t look in the glove compartment. He said, in no uncertain terms, “son you don’t have a glove compartment any more” So I could not work, I could barely take care of my essentials, I filed for and received SSDI and although my check is better than most, it’s a far cry from the six figures plus, I was used to making. That day changed my life forever. But it can always be worse. I’m alive but for the grace of God. Thank you Lord!!! I however feel blessed every day.
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